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    I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles Nightowl.
    Always good advice on this forum.
    I hope you get all the help you need and soon.
    Big hug for you x

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    Hi Tania,

    Sorry your mother is having such a hard time at the moment.

    It's not unusual that a care company need notice of a client's discharge from hospital to allow them to rejig their staff rosters.

    Good to hear that your mum will soon be home. Co-codamol causes constipation, so she needs to take laxatives to keep her bowels moving. She must be uncomfortable going just once a week.

    Catheters are usually changed monthly but some need to be changed less often. Sometimes there is a higher risk of UTIs in people with catheters than those without one.

    Did you manage to get your mum into Day Hospice to give you one free day a week?

    Hope Monday goes smoothly.

    Love Ellie.
    ​Diagnosed 03/2007. Limb onset (arm) sporadic ALS/MND.

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    let's say I got to know one neighbour very well!!!! as I never thought she (my mam)would get to the point where we needed help !!!in 1997 I had no idea what M.N.D did to the physical body!!!! there was no information in the first couple of months !until we went to the library! and looked at the Oxford medical dictionary !from which my mam diagnosed herself !!!!! our local hospital was and still is useless !!!!!.

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    Hi there It's every 12 week they change the catheter. I only know this as my husband has one and I just rang up to see when they were coming . The nurses just ordered the leg and overnight bags . Hope things work out for you x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellie View Post
    I'm so sorry you've got so much on your shoulders Night Owl - it's no wonder you're at breaking point. As Susan said, you will be no use to anyone if you get ill and all concerned, including your mum, must be told how fragile you are.

    To add to Terry and Susan's wise advice:
    Get in contact with your local hospice - most offer day hospice, so your mum could go once a week and get input from nurses, counselling (for you too) physio, OT and complementary therapies. They may offer 1-2 weeks of respite too.

    On a practical level, overnight continuous feeding with a pump (programmed to give a set amount of feed over whatever number of hours suit you) would mean no need for you feeding her during the day.
    Do any of her meds come in liquid form or patches?

    Do ring MND Connect.

    Sending you a big hug,
    Love Ellie.
    Hi mam wonít go to day centre Iím trying to work on her for restbite in the school holidays
    No liquid form all tablets to be crushed & painkillers , the pain patch is the lowest one
    Iím hoping to see dietician soon to get her on feeding overnight instead of the drinks through the peg
    Thank you for the advice

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellie View Post
    Hi Tania,

    Sorry your mother is having such a hard time at the moment.

    It's not unusual that a care company need notice of a client's discharge from hospital to allow them to rejig their staff rosters.

    Good to hear that your mum will soon be home. Co-codamol causes constipation, so she needs to take laxatives to keep her bowels moving. She must be uncomfortable going just once a week.

    Catheters are usually changed monthly but some need to be changed less often. Sometimes there is a higher risk of UTIs in people with catheters than those without one.

    Did you manage to get your mum into Day Hospice to give you one free day a week?

    Hope Monday goes smoothly.

    Love Ellie.
    Hi she is on senacot every night
    Mam won’t go into the day hospice
    Mams cathertar got to be changed every 28 days plus I got to change the leg bag every week & re order bags supply’s so that’s something else for me to do as the distrect nurses who come only want to check mams bottom for pressure areas
    She has already had her Cather changed cause she was bypassing but when I rang the distrect nurses up she said just keep pushing fluids with mam , it really annoyed me when I said she’s bypassing & tube blocked she tried to palm me off
    Distrect nurses in my area don’t seem to do a lot

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    Honestly Tania, you should NOT have to carry all of this on your own - you've young kids on top of trying to single handedly care for the complex needs of your mother. Sorry the District Nurse is useless Also, Senokot isn't enough for fighting codeine (and immobility) induced constipation - at the very least a stool softener needs to be added or just use Movicol. Of course, the District Nurse should be on top of this but...

    You need support, and fast. Medical/Nursing support - is there Macmillan in your area or maybe her hospice has a homecare service? I know your mum says no to Day Hospice, but sometimes we all have to do things we don't want to for the betterment of a situation. She needs to know you're struggling and that by going she'll get nursing care and you'll get essential down time. (If she doesn't go she's being selfish, I know that sounds harsh - sorry)

    You need to think of your own health & well being too. If you find yourself unable to care for her, your mum will have no option but to go into a care home or hospital.

    Please ring the MND Helpline Tania, they're there to give you advice and comfort.

    0808 802 6262 Monday to Friday between 9am to 5pm and 7pm to 10:30pm

    I wish I could do more to help you!

    Love Ellie.
    ​Diagnosed 03/2007. Limb onset (arm) sporadic ALS/MND.

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