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    Mums care needs - advice please?

    Hi everyone. Hope you are all as well as can be. My head is spinning with thoughts of mums care needs and was hoping some insight from you all would help!

    Mum is struggling more to mobilise around her house - itís often as if her feet are stuck to the floor and just will not lift. Itís taking her so much effort just to move and her hands are Ďcurlingí and getting weaker too. She is still living alone in her semi detached house with a stair lift to get upstairs. Weíre waiting on a council bungalow but nothing suitable has come up yet, plus she hasnít been awarded medical priority yet so wouldnít get the property even if she bidded for it anyway.

    Carers come in three times a day but the times are not ideal nor is the level of care. Donít get me wrong, they are lovely people but donít do the extra stuff - tidying the pots away, making sure mum has a good scrub rather than a quick wash. Plus they are only there a few hours a day.

    Options put to us are - paying for a private care company (mum has savings so pays for all her care), paying for a personal assistant where she can dictate amount and level of care more, or going into sheltered housing. I guess the other option is care home but nobody has mentioned this yet so hopefully that means she wouldnít need this yet (?).

    Iím just overwhelmed with the decisions needing to be made and, as Iíve said before, we never seem to be able to keep up with how fast MND progresses so I donít feel like times on our side. Iím very conscious that mum lives alone and I think she struggles more than she lets on. Just donít know what to do for the best. Thanks for reading.

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    Hello Helen,

    I’m sorry to hear that your mum is struggling and she does sound like a case for continuing health care. CHC is provided by the NHS and is granted after assessment of the patient. It is not means based and a number of our fellow members have it. www.continuing-healthcare.co.uk

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    Hi Helen;

    Getting the right care is very hard. Maybe consider getting the carer in for a extra hour every three days to give her a proper scrub.

    Also you might be able to get someone to pop in for a hour to do a bit of house cleaning and tidying.

    Know one ever does things how you would like but there is a medium.

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    Thanks for your replies. My thoughts are that a personal assistant may be better and we may look at them being there more than the current carers. I donít think the care company would be sorry to see us go - with me complaining and my husband sending a carer off with stern words for coming over an hour early to do mums tea, I donít think weíre very popular!! Haha.

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    My husband has continuing healthcare if you want any info/advice. This pays for 2 carers every morning for an hour and a 4 hour sitting service on a Monday so I can go out. We could have had evening carers too, but he would have had to go to bed about 8pm. From next week we have also got another 10 hours. We have gone on to direct payments as you have more choice about what you do with the funding. So for the extra 10 hours we are having another 4 hours sitting service, 2 hours cleaning and 4 hours for a carer to focus on taking Tony out etc.

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    Thank you Devonmaid. Are direct payments where you find the carers yourself and employ them directly in a private arrangement rather than through a care company?

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    Hi Helen,

    My Gran lived alone and, after diagnosis, her progression rate was incredibly fast. The care company that we had sound a lot like yours- coming in at the wrong times (or sometimes not even coming at all!) and a lot of them did not do any tidying up or washing my Gran properly, the same as your situation.

    Eventually, things got so stressful (certainly when my Gran could no longer walk to get to the commode by herself), my Gran made the decision to move into a nursing home. She's been there for a month now and I must say that her daily needs are being met much better than when she was at home (though, she is unable to be transferred anywhere other than the commode because she has incredible pain in her peroneal nerve whenever she sits for more than 20 minutes, so she is confined to her room and her bed, unfortunately).
    Definitely go for the continuing healthcare- your mum is absolutely entitled to it and it will lessen any financial burden monumentally (even if there's none now, it's best not to have to worry about it happening in the future and is just one less thing to worry about overall).

    Alternatively to nursing homes, you could look into live-in carers- i'm not sure if continuing healthcare would cover the costs of that, though.

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    Thanks Broostine. I applied for continuing healthcare but it was refused because they said mums needs are more social than medical (?!). But we met with a new care company this week who seem more in tune with what mums needs are (hopefully) and they link in with other services a lot which is encouraging. The current carers just seem to do the bare minimum which is fair enough but I think needs in MND are more complex than that. Mums got so many professionals supporting her which is a blessing and a curse - itís a lot to co-ordinate at times! But they give such good advice and Iím sure will help us apply for funding when it is suitable because mum pays full whack for everything at the minute. Iím glad to hear than your gran is settled in the nursing home, and hopefully this will help bring a bit of balance back into life for yourself x

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