How can I help my friend

[clement way]

My friend is in charge of a mental health group, usually all together but now is crumbling.

we talk every night but now she is getting so tired with nurses coming in 4 times a day for her husband with MND.

is she allowed to have a sitter with husband while she goes out please?

thanks.

Clement Way

[Mary C]

Hi Clement Way,
I believe there are several routes to try and get a sitters

If your friend’s husband has contact with a local hospice then my suggestion would be to start there.
The hospice support carers like your friend to look at the options for a sitter and realise the impact caring can have on spouse.

It depends also on what this gentleman’s care needs are as to the type sitter he needs..for example if he mobility issues and uses equipment.

If not linked to any hospice then maybe other health professionals are involved who could talk to him and his wife about what they really need to support .

I hope your friend gets the support she feels she needs soon.
Best wishes
Mary

[Ellie]

Hi Clement.

It's not really a case of being "allowed" to have "sitters" for your friend's husband, more a case of who is able to take care of him should he need the bathroom, meds or other assistance. The fact he has nurses calling 4x daily leaves me thinkinking he must have quite specialist needs.

Mary has made some great suggestions and I wonder has your friend asked one of the nurses if they'd like to do a few extra hours - they are already familar with her husband.

I think it's so important for her to have some quality "me time so hopefully something can be worked out..

Love Ellie.