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    Anticipatory Grief

    We’ve seen this theme touched on by some people on this forum so thought we would create a specific post on anticipatory grief and hope that this will encourage people to share their experiences.

    Anticipatory grief happens when feelings of loss occur before a death, but this is often not acknowledged, talked about or even understood. Being given a diagnosis of MND can trigger anticipatory grief in both the person with MND and their family and friends. MND can bring a range of losses during the progression of the disease as well as ultimately death and so anticipatory grief can be a significant part of being affected by MND.

    A wide range of emotions can be felt including anger, love, depression, anxiety, guilt, mourning, fear, and loneliness. Anticipatory grief can be confusing, and it doesn’t mean you have given up on yourself or your loved one but it does allow you to prepare for losses and death and provides opportunities to spend meaningful time with loved ones.

    Here are some links we think might help:

    https://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/ne...vement-advice/

    https://www.hrrv.org/blog/anticipato...efore-a-death/

    https://samaritannj.org/hospice-blog...ipatory-grief/

    https://www.bacp.co.uk/bacp-journals...-young-people/


    https://www.mndassociation.org/suppo...ement-support/



    #2
    Carpe diem.
    Copyright Graham

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      #3
      I myself have experienced this, many times I have said I am grieving for a husband that's not dead, in fact when we were first told to expect a diagnosis of MND (still not given) he could be sat at the side of me while such thoughts were in my head. I now suffer true grief as my son died 20 weeks ago and that is all consuming but I think I also suffer guilt as my thoughts are now with my son rather than my husband.

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        #4
        I think this is something we have all touched on but it takes so many forms.
        fear of losing someone. Fear of being alone. Fear of death.
        some things creep into our thoughts when we least expect it to. Something might just trigger an emotion, totally unconnected, but an outpouring of grief, takes us by surprise. Perhaps it is preparation.
        when my brother died I didn't cry. In a way it was a relief because he was going through hell. When I returned home from an extended stay with my mother my husband thought he would surprise me with a new kitchen. I think I should have been pleased but I went ballistic. I don't know how he survived. All my grief came out in the loss of my old kitchen.
        I don't know how it all works and I'm not sure if we can totally prepare for things.
        I suppose we should try and spend meaningful time with everyone. Who knows what is lurking around the corner for any of us. Yes seize the day. (Actually I translated it to dead fish 😃)
        xxx

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          #5
          I cried the day Mick was diagnosed, and every day until he died, and everyday since. I felt our life was over when he was diagnosed, he struggled so much, we couldnt really do the things that we used to. I cry from loneliness now, I just miss him so much

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            #6
            Oh Shrew, I could have written that myself. I think of how Nigel used to be and still can't believe he's gone. I lost him in August, just over a year from being diagnosed. xx




            Husband, Nigel, diagnosed with ALS in July 2019. We live in Spain and the medical care is superb. Nigel currently taking Riluzole. Tried acupuncture/Chinese medicine and bee venom (privately), but not helpful. Had stem cell therapy 6 months ago, but no improvement so far.

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              #7
              Puddy, so sad for you. we got just under a year (11 n half months) so cruel. Together since I was 16. I feel lost

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                #8
                Bless all of those who suffer and help us try to remember the good times - make our tears “happy tears”

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