Goodbye rituals

[nunhead_man]

I am thinking of saying goodbye to writing - by that I mean using a pen on paper.

I have always done quite a lot of voice dictation anyway and have taken handwritten notes using mind mapping with pen and paper when out and about at meetings, et cetera - or even when thinking about setting out the outline of the document.

However, having lost a substantial amount of the use of my dominant hand I find writing so difficult that I have almost given it up except for signing birthday cards and that kinda stuff.

We have just done our office clearing out thing and I realise how much paper I got stacked around the office in the form of notebooks et cetera that I will never ever use any more, so was thinking about how I can say goodbye to writing.

In that set me wondering about goodbye rituals -

I found this, https://exploringyourmind.com/everyt...rewell-ritual/

which includes.........

"In today’s society, however, there are fewer and fewer rituals to announce the arrival of something new or the dismissal of something that passes. You could say that the only one of all those rituals that still survives is the funeral ritual."

Does anybody here have goodbye rituals as they lose things in their life and what kind of things do you do?

[Terry]

Hi Andy;

Nothing replaces pen and paper, just to make a odd note that you can use beside you. Yes sure you can use the computer but to do a drawing with notes to explain things takes a hour, when pen and paper would have taken a few minutes.

Don't know about rituals, I'm to busy trying to work out ways of adapting.

Love Terry

[Barry52]

Hi Andy,

Where would we be without our tablets and phones with the ability to type in what we want to say or send. Predictive text is also useful although at times can be annoying. I have created label templates for family and friends addresses because writing is difficult and I even have a generic birthday and Christmas greeting label.

Like you I have been clearing out my 2 drawers filing cabinet and I asked myself why keep 10 years worth of tax returns and all the associated paperwork. I haven’t worked for 7 years but I still had all my documents and pay cheques. I had to keep stopping because my shredder was overheating.

How often do we look at photos we took and stored on our computer over 10 years ago but I expect other family members will look back when we are no longer here so they survive.

Best wishes,
Barry

[Kayleigh]

Hi Andy,

Talking of sorting through things .. and in my case shoes rather than paperwork....

I shed a few tears when I had to chuck out my glamorous collection of high-heeled shoes - I hate having to wear frumpy sensible flat shoes because of this bl...dy MND!

The issue of heels is probably not something that you and the other gentleman of the forum have had to deal with ? Lol - but I expect some ladies on the forum will get where I am coming from!

Love Kayleigh xx

[Kayleigh]

.. but, to be fair, some gentlemen here might still have some of those cool platform boots/shoes that they wore in the 1970's?!! ....
http://vintagenewsdaily.com/wp-conte...64a2fdbb85.jpg

[Doug Carpenter]

I'm more concerned, Kayleigh, that you may have thrown out the stockings that doubtless went with the high heels at times!

Doug xx

[Kayleigh]

Just for you Doug (because I know you like a lady in stockings) Lol

https://i2-prod.examinerlive.co.uk/i...b/GL422319.jpg

[Doug Carpenter]

LOL!

Thanks Kayleigh, point taken.

But an old man can dream.....

Hugs

Doug x

[Kittymcb]

Kayleigh
Great to get a laugh! Won’t spoil it for anyone else but wasn’t expecting that when I clicked on link! It’s just so sad how much this awful disease robs people of every day things that were once taken for granted. Andy my husband is like Terry- no goodbye rituals but just trying so hard to adapt and I suppose I’m also trying hard to adapt both my mindset and my coping skills. Again Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, feelings, stories. It really has given me such a great insight into how my husband is feeling.

Kitty x

[Sheila]

Kayleigh, I was never a fan of high heels, but I know what you mean. Comfortable shoes for me now, I miss running around. Ah, Kathy staff a great actress, she was in loads of things.

[Deb]

Hi Everyone,

I love the picture Kayleigh.. it really made me chuckle .Well done for finding it !

It's strange and very frivolous that with all the challenges of MND I too was very upset to throw out my high shoes and skinny Jeans. You would think that would be the least of my problems but I asked my husband to do it and I didn't watch.

On a positive note, now I am in a wheelchair I dont wear out my shoes and the warm weather makes it possible to be bare foot, which feels lovely.

Thanks for the laughs,
Love Debbie x

[Pinkelle]

I totally get it about the shoes. I was so upset to send my heels to charity. Was a bit selfish as I have friends with same size as me but i didn't want to see them wearing the shoes i loved

[Kayleigh]

Completely understandable and not selfish at all Pink.

Giving your shoes to charity instead of offering them to your friends was the most appropriate thing to do under the circumstances. Anyway, it was generous of you to give them to charity rather than selling them on e-bay!

You are a lovely lady with a heart of gold.

Love and hugs
Kayleigh xx

[Barry52]

Thanks to Andy for starting this thread and to Kayleigh for bringing a smile to my face with her pictures. Speaking of shoes I can’t bring myself to throwing out my collection but over the last year I have only been wearing Sketchers.

Barry x

[nunhead_man]

Good morning Barry

Thanks to Andy for starting this thread and to Kayleigh for bringing a smile to my face with her pictures.

Thank you in return, and some of the responses have brought a smile to my face as well.

This is needed as I was crying over my 2 lovely fountain pens that I had as gifts from employers which I can no longer use and wondering about re-homing those and the bottles of ink I had kept.

For a long time I have been using voice dictation and my mobile phone to take notes but there is a real difference between doing this for convenience and having to do it because I cannot do anything else

Warmly

Andy